Feed me feedback

As much as I am trying to be objective, self-aware, and confident, I am still flattered when I receive compliment from others. It is not easy to be fully mentally independent. You need to be very confident to be have a self-assurance, but then we need external acknowledgement to be confident (that, or some huge ego). It kind of annoys me that we are such a natural sucker for compliments

What really annoys me however, is uncalled critic, by unqualified people. That is just so unoriginal. Everybody can do it; and usually they are the kind of people that we should not be bothered with.

These critics are the thing make it harder to achieve mental independence. These critics can get into you after a while with constant repetition. You just need to remember that while those critics are not always true, and we should not waste our time with anything untrue.

I can criticize the Mona Lisa. I can criticize the whole United Nations, or any charitable institutions; But what’s the point? I cannot make it better, and to be honest I don’t think I can make something close to that to begin with.

Even if I can do it better, should I criticize the work of others? What’s the point? I know I am better than that than to do meaningless thing like that. As I learn to be wiser, I have learnt to keep my mouth shut.

Nonetheless, we need to do more than that. We need to do more than just shutting up. We need to speak up when we see people do something special: acknowledge someone when they did a good job. Perhaps it is a bit unnatural to compliment people when something went well, but if you know the impact that it can make, you should not hesitate. Seriously, there are more people who deserve compliments out there than people who give them out. You can help, give those compliments to those who deserve it.

For something that we are not very confident with, assurance matters a lot. Sometime the absence of positive feedback can actually demotivate people.

So, if this comes to you. Ask for it.Hopefully you will get a feedback where you can improve, or perhaps a reassurance to support you further.

So that being said, feel free to drop me a line when you are un/happy with my writing.